Idell Syed: My daughter is only 14 months old so not old enough for preschool yet, but in the area we live in there are long waiting lists for the good quality preschools. We put our daughter on the waiting lists at 4 different preschools last month. For 3 and 4 year olds to attend 3 full days per week it costs between $6000 and $10,000 per school year from August till May. So kind of pricey but nothing compared to the private elementary, middle, and high schools in our area which cost around $17,000 per school year....Show more
Morris Cuomo: Mention it to your daughter and see if she could help out her friend. The girl made it public knowledge, obviously she wants someone to talk to.BQ: YESSSSSSSS!! I has been for the past 2 days and it is driving me crazy!
Bob Pucella: My son goes 1/2 day from Tuesday-Friday and it's free. He goes about 5 hours a day.
Dawn Saha: I think there are many things you can do, but it is going to take a lot of adjustment on yo! ur part. I know you are the mother and it needs to stay that way, but it seems you have an exceptional daughter who can not be dealt with the same way you would another child. No doubt you are a religious person and think your daughter should be the same. You are trying to force religion on her and she has built a wall. Try to recognize your daughter can be a good person without religion, let her forge her own path and see where it takes her. She is going to do this sooner or later so let go now, maybe one day she will find a religion, or maybe she will not, there is nothing you can do about it either way. Her language is all a part of the religion package. She is honest - can anyone ask more of their child then being honest? This shows show has real character which you can build on. She does things you tell her to do, and does them fast and well. Again this shows character, build on it. She is logical and thoughtful which means you can deal with her. Sit her do! wn and talk to her on a regular basis at least once a week, an! d do not let a day go by without asking her how her day was and if she had any problems - show an interest in her. The two of you should jointly establish guidelines for her behavior, friends, household duties, curfews, and so on. Also what will happen should she break any of the rules. I am not big on grounding or taking things away, although in an extreme instance that could happen. Give her back everything you have taken from her and start over fresh after you two have set the rules. If I can brag a little I think my children were advanced too. Generally my punishment was to assign them a research paper on the subject of the rule they broke with the conclusion of why it is an important as it applies to them. It had to be perfect grammar, spelling, and so forth. Depending on how bad they were I determined how long the paper had to be. They were not grounded, nor did they lose their phone, it was they could not go anyplace or use the phone or whatever until I acce! pted the paper. In addition they had to keep up with their school work. They each had duties to do around the house so additional things to do as punishment was not an option for me. Let her be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Good luck, keep in touch if you like....Show more
Shelley Stevens: This is probably quite harsh, but it might work, so I would say you should give it a shot.Research boarding schools and stuff on the internet, and then show her pictures and ask her which she'd prefer if she were to be sent to live at one of them. You wouldn't actually have to send her there, just let her think that you will. If she doesn't believe you then say that you don't want to send her but she's left you no choice, and that if you don't see an improvement over the next two weeks then you will contact her school and tell them that she will be leaving. Just scare her a little.If you don't think boarding school would deter her, do the same with military camps! , or even children's homes. Tell her that you just can't cope anymore w! ith it, and that you will still see her as often as you're allowed to. This may make her stop and think for a moment.Good luck, hope you find your answer. x...Show more
Hugo Pittari: You really do have a problem, but before I suggest anything, let me just advise you to separate the legitimate stuff from this church and god nonsense. Shame on you for brainwashing (or attempting to brainwash) your children that way. That makes you no better than the Palestinian Muslims brainwashing their kids to become martyrs against Israel. Obviously you are a believer but why would you want someone to attend services because they were forced to rather than because they wanted to? Surely you can agree that if your daughter "behaved" in all the other ways then the refusal to attend church would be a very minor thing, right?Okay, so just addressing the other issues, first I would suggest that you sit down with her for a serious talk in which you explain once and for all what you exp! ect from her and that there will be serious, life-changing consequences for her if she does not begin to accept that as a child in the eyes of the law she does not have the option to just do whatever she wants. Don't let it get into a back and forth argument because by the sounds of it she is smarter, if not wiser, than you. There's always at least three sides to every story, and her side of this story is probably that you are always on her back about something, blah blah blah. It would be wise to consider her complaints and try to find areas where you can adjust your behavior, too. You don't have to compromise your authority but you can look for some middle ground of understanding from which to rebuild the relationship.As for the consequences, you don't even have to elaborate on what they are. You can leave it as a threat hanging in the air that will seem more ominous because she can't be sure what it will turn out to be. You may want to consult with the local police! about when they will intervene in family relations. For instance, on ! those occasions where she has not come home, will they go pick her up from wherever and take her into custody or won't they? They will probably suggest some municipal resources for families or the guardian ad litem court program; go to those resources and find out when a parent can count on some intervention by authorities when a child has crossed that line from "just" unmanageable to delinquent. Once you have that information, you are in a stronger position. You should contact her school and find out what they can do to help. You might be able to arrange for the resource officer to have a chat with your daughter or to otherwise assist in making sure she goes where she is supposed to. You can stop by the school in the middle of the day and yank your daughter out of class for a meeting with you and the school counselor ... embarrassments like that should put some fear into her.You said she has no freedom now but clearly she does if she is coming home from school on her ! own whenever she feels like it. I infer that she takes a bus to school. End that. Make her ride with you to and from. That way you control the time, and she will just have to endure the embarrassment of being chaperoned everywhere. If she is free to go to her friends' houses whenever she wants then all the taking away of her creature comforts at your home will mean nothing because she can just "play" with the same toys away from home.Just be aware that you are creating a decision point for her: she will either straighten up or run away. And also be sure that you are addressing real areas of disruption and not just your emotions regarding her attitude of disrespect. Respect is something that has to be earned. You can never get it by demanding it. You can only demand compliance. If she does everything you tell her to and still disrespects/dislikes you there's really nothing you can do about it. It sounds as though there were serious gaps in your parenting skills lo! ng before now that laid the groundwork for all this, and it will take t! ime to rebuild anything like a functional family environment again....Show more
Collin Barter: She doesn't care. SHe doesn't do anything illegal. She really wouldn't mind being sent to juvenile, I don't think. She acts like there's nothing I can do to control her.
Claude Gloden: First of all, "Roberta" you're an idiot, don't fume about your environmental concerns when this parent is asking an important question.Now, for the important stuff..... You have a difficult situation on your hands. You're lucky to have such an inteligent child, but it makes parenting difficult when your kids is already a little adult. I was a lot like your daughter growing up- but I respected my parents a bit more. My suggestion would be to praise her for her inteligence and independence, while voicing your concerns for her well being. She is obviously a very headstrong child, and when she is an adult this will be both a blessing and a curse. Explain to her the importance of obidenc! e in adult life. You can't talk back to your boss- you get fired. I realize she is only 13, but I think she should get a job. In my area, kids that age can do "farm work". If there are any farms in your area, see if anyone will hire her. If she can't get a paying job anywhere, have her volunteer. Don't force her to work for a cause she does not believe in- let her choose something that is important to her. Maybe being part of society- in a more "adult way" is what she wants. If she uses foul language around her superiors at "work" she won't be around long, and may realize that sometimes you have to conform to societal rules- if she is forced to leave somewhere she wants to be... She acts like a mini adult, treat her like one. You have already done everything you can at home., and its obvious that your care deeply about her, and only want the best for her. I'm sorry you're stuck in this situation, and I hope someone here can help you....Show more
Rachell Meese: If so, ! have you ever seen something on their walls that made you feel awful fo! r them and wanted to do something for them?*This little girl posted some depressing stuff on her board because she was dumped by this little boy. I feel awful and wish there was something I could do.
Gregory Dilg: My daughter's preschool is 250 a week... it's a great school. I went there as a young child and was able to read before i hit kindergarten so i feel it's worth it.
Dee Depung: I think you shouldve had The Talk when she started going to middle school.
Stevie Goldey: In PA we have a head start preschool and it is for low income families. I sent my children to a church preschool. It was 140/ month. We looked into a public preschool and it was over 500/ month. Too expensive for my tastes and my son thought it was goofy because the playground was in a parking lot. NO GRASS!? I would continue to search by looking at local church websites and seeing which churches offer a preschool program. They are much less expensive and will vary a lot. So don! 't get discouraged just because you found one that costs too much. You may have better luck somewhere else. My only advice would be once you find one, don't settle for a preschool that doubles as a daycare. I made that mistake once....the daycare kids were there so much more than the other children. It was like an exclusive club or something. And a lot of parents sent very sick children to school.......Show more
Randa Hessell: Well I'll tell you exactly what my parents do to me. And I never misbehave. Whenever I do something really bad I am spanked. Not in an abusive way but in a way that scares me enough not to do anything that would upset my rents. Mom makes me go to my room and think about what I did wrong. Then after she calms down I fetch the ping pong paddle from the dresser drawer. Then my mom places me over her knee and spanks me on my jeans for a bit with her hand. Then pants come down and I get the paddle on my undies. I can cry and scream all I! want and it won't stop. I get the spanking of a lifetime and then its! over. It kills so I always behave. p.s. I've only been spanked like this twice and I am 16. It works. I am living proof.Good luck Adrienne....Show more
Tricia Dossous: Sadly, the world today sexualizes children much too young. The best time to have the talk is now. She is 16 years old, most likely in high school and most likely has friends who are already sexually active or pressuring her to be. She needs to realizes the risks about everything. If she hasn't had Sex Ed yet she probably knows some but not enough to protect herself.I myself didn't have the talk soon enough and made a mistake, I learned from it [the hard way] but if I could change the past, I would have had chosen to have the talk the moment I entered middle school. You don't want your child to make a mistake. Being open and supportive is the best thing for her, especially if she has friends who find this a trivial matter.
Inell Riesgo: BQ: Is Y!A glitching for other people...showing yo! ur account oopsed one second, then valid there the next click, questions deleted but then reappear, etc?
Jed Mutone: Firstly, She doesn't believe in God. So forcing her to Church isn't fair even if she IS a brat.I respect you have your beliefs, but you can't force faith through Church. It's like bashing her over the head with a bible if she's a bored 13 year old. Church isn't "cool", and when it TRIES to be cool, it's even cheesier.Belief, and faith come from within.You say she's really bright? Maybe she needs to be moved up in school. Her acting up could be a misguided cry for attention because she's really really bored!She likes a good well worded debate? Have a good think about how while you understood her clever argument FOR bad language, she should also respect other people's rights not to have it in their ears. Beat her at her own game.Fight back, look up "Cultural taboos" on the 'net and show her that tradition may be wrong, but it can be right too!Tell her sh! e can swear, but the foul language had more power and effect when she u! ses it sparingly, and in the right place!Or as my Dad would put it "When you run out of French, use some good old Anglo-Saxon!" (Some of the "worst" words are actually normal anglo-saxon ones that the french made vulgar after 1066)I'm not trying to be too liberal here, I DO think she's a brat, and the "Threats of Military school" answer had a point. But you must think to yourself...Exactly how mean is she to me?What are her best points? (She's bright for one thing!)Do I praise her for those best points?Do I tell her I love her?You must let her know how frightening it is not to know when she'll be home. If you arrange that she at LEAST calls you to let you know where she is, the thrill of disobaying you may wear off.Good luck. And remember, her hormones dictate her emotions right now. What fun!Oh, and Mimi has put it REALLY well. If you "stop" caring, she'll be worried....Show more
Elinore Schlinker: Now she turned 16 but I think that she is way too young to learn abou! t sex and pregnency should i wait until she goes to college ?
Johnny Sirko: I guess I am fortunate because my son goes to preschool for free. He is in a half day program (2 and a half hours) everyday Monday thru Friday. He is a "preschooler with a disability" as is listed on his IEP and he is in a special class in an integrated setting. He gets speech therapy, physical therapy, and occupational therapy at his preschool. Where I live they also have Head Start which is completely free to low income families and then there also a couple religious based preschools in my city and preschool available at the YMCA. Obviously these programs you would have to pay for but I never looked in to how much they cost....Show more
Darren Heling: Public preschool (also called "Head Start" for children age 3) is only available to low income families in our area. There are a variety of private preschools. If the school offers classes from preschool through high school, the tuit! ion is usually higher.Six years ago, I paid $75/month in tuition for my! daughter to go to a private preschool for 2 1/2 hours twice a week. The school only offered preschool and pre-K. There was another popular preschool program that was $90/month for three days a week offered by a church. The private schools that offer a preschool program but go all the way to high school were about $300/month.There is a public pre-K program (for children age 4) in our area that is open to all but preference is given to at risk and low income children. It's on a first come, first serve basis for everybody else....Show more
Ollie Desalvo: One of my children's friends came over while my facebook was open one day. He sent a friend request from my account to his and then accepted it. Recently one of my daughter's friends requested me as a friend. While I check my daughter's account almost daily and check out her friends or the accounts of anyone who has friend requested her, I told her to tell her friend that I wasn't slighting her, I just felt it would ! be better not to be friends with my children's friends. I don't know why, it just felt weird.Just after the first of the year I read something on one of my daughter's friend's accounts that broke my heart. She posted that in the hallway at school another girl had cut a huge chunk of her waist length hair at the neck. Later on she posted a picture with a really cute cut, but you could tell that the assault had taken a lot from her....Show more
Len Dalba: Wait. Whaaaaat? I am 13 and I know since quite some time. I'm actually surprised she didn't have sex-ed at school. I have it since 7th grade. I think she already knows, because everyone knows "how babies are made" since they are 10 or something. Ah well, if she really doesn't, which would really surprise me, it's important to tell her now, she's way old enough...I never really had "the talk" with my parents because they knew I had sex-ed (which thankfully saved a lot of awkward conversations).Well, good luck anyway!!
Joni Ziak: No, she never screams.And she doesn't really speak to! me. She only answers when I talk to her, so there's no point in ignoring her. I'm sorry. It's really, really difficult
Lady Laflin: You guys don't get it haha. She wouldn't care if I sent her to a military school.
Hans Sachetti: BQ: Is Y!A glitching for other people...showing your account oopsed one second, then there the next click, questions deleted but then reappear, etc?
Bo Perham: You should have had the talk long ago. I'd be willing to bet she knows everything about sex by now, by a variety of sources. If she by chance doesn't, you have to tell her soon. It's likely some people she knows are already having or thinking about sex. With the way the world works right now, a 16-year old girl should at least understand what sex and pregnancy is.
Horace Escue: I really don't know. Our daycare has a preschool and we don't have to pay extra for it since she is fulltime.
Kirk Coolbeth: First, you cannot force somebody to go to church. You can't t! ell somebody to believe in something that they don't. Which is why Y!A has a constant debate between Christians and Atheists. Second, is she out doing drugs, having sex, etc.? If she isn't, I don't see the problem. You said it yourself, she does her chores, and goes to school. As for talking back, she's still a child, smack her mouth. Don't "pimp smack" her, just smack her. There isn't anything she can do about it, unless you leave a bruise, but you shouldn't hit her hard enough to leave a bruise. Also, file an unruly child charge against her. That way, if you do decide to physically discipline her, you have proof that she is unruly....Show more
Cordia Fivecoat: Wow, she is in full out rebellion! Believe it or not, things will probably get better within a year. Please don't make her go to church. My parents made me go, and it just reinforced that there is no god. Tell her what your job is, being a mother (any other job you do), and that her job is to go to school! and do well. She's trying to shock you with the words. Inform her th! ose words are not allowed in your house, but when she uses them, don't say anything at all. She heard you the first time. After she sees the words have lost their shock value, there won't be much point in using them. Can you not arrange a ride for her from school? I don't think she would be afraid of military school, so don't make threats you can't keep. Definitely I would find someone for her to talk to. She needs someone she can tell how much she hates you and everything about you...LOL. There are programs which don't cost much. The first two visits she will probably just sit there. When she comes out, don't ask her what was said, but be open when she's ready to talk. Remind her at least once a day that you love her...it won't hurt to add that you don't love everything she does, but you love her and always will....Show more
Ruby Martis: I live in Florida and the state provides free preschool to all children that are 4-5 years old. My son will be going i! n September. However I will have to pay his daycare $55 a week for before and after care because it ends before I get off of work.Add: At least in Florida the places that offer free preschool all differ in quality. My son goes to one of the top rated day cares in the country and I'm thrilled they now offer free preschool. Look around. :-)...Show more
Willa Holte: From the places I've seen, it can run anywhere between $170 a week to $250 a week
Damaris Weiler: lol way too old, she should have heard this from you 4 years ago, luckily she probably already knows from friends and school since you failed, you're lucky shes not pregnant yet, since its often the un-informed ones that make the mistakes
Eldridge Rieves: @ Petmom: that's so sad... kids can be so cruel! I hope that bully got into some trouble.So I already answered this question but I guess I'll do it again because it's not showing up for me it's just showing my edit so sorry if you get it twice! ! No my children are too young to have fb but my sister and her friends a! re frends with me on FB (they're seniors) and I just want to fix their problems for them. Of course I keep my mouth shut, but I would rather notBQ: Yes it's definitely glitching for me obviously lol, you'll especially know this if you get my answer twice in one answer... It's driving me nuts!...Show more
Andra Oger: I've taken everything away (she had nothing - no phone, computer, own room, freedom, anything) because she will NOT behave. She's thirteen years old. She lives by her own rules, her own schedule, etc. etc. She talks back, gets terrible grades, takes her sweet time coming home from school (hours), uses foul language, calls me by my first name, REFUSES to go to church because she "doesn't believe in God", etc.She is very smart, and I don't know what to say to her. For instance, once I was talking to her about her use of foul language and she began to debate with me and of the words I understood (her vocabulary is enormous) she was actually making a good argu! ment as to why she should use foul language. I don't think I should answer, I just think she should listen when I tell her not to use those words. She says she will not comply to what she doesn't think is right.I don't have money for military school, but I can't control her. She does not lie, which is the bad part. She'll tell me she was out doing whatever. Every responsibility I gave her she does. She already makes her own meals, does her own laundry, and washes her own dishes. By choice! I told her to do other stuff as a punishment, and it's always done much faster than I think it would have been done, and she stays out when she isn't supposed to, does not go to church, talks back horribly, etc.I'm really upset. I don't know what else to do....Show more
Amina Motzer: Thirteen is a tough age!!She actually sounds like a responsible-enough person! She does all of the chores you ask of her, and also takes on extra responsibility on her own.You did not say that she was ! taking drugs, or running with a bad crowd, or getting into trouble with! the law.. She DOES sound like an intelligent girl.Children must rebel, at some point. All of them. If they didn't, they couldn't develop into adults.I would suggest that you absolutely stand your ground regarding disrespectful behavior towards YOU. She shouldn't call you by your first name, nor should she use foul language, regardless of whether or not she thinks it's "right".Regarding making her go to church: if you force her, she will become even more resentful. She says that she doesn't believe in god. Well...so? It's HER brain, isn't it? It really IS her right to think and believe (or not believe) anything she wants to!!If you want her to go to church with you, just so she can sit there, you should ask yourself WHY you're doing it. Is it for her sake, or yours? You really can't force her to believe in it....Show more
August Hubbard: She's 16. That means she's been learning it at school for 4 years, and that you should have started talking about it 8 years a! go.
Joesph Smithmyer: Mom.... she is probably already doing it and can probably tell you everything you need to know
Cassondra Vanholland: The preschool I have my daughter enrolled in (when she turns 3, she's 1.5 now...preschools are in short supply in my area and this one is probably the best of the few we have) is $62 a month for 2 days a week, (3 year olds). Once she turns 4, it will be 3 days a week, and it goes up to $70 a month. To be honest, I can't remember what the registration fee is, I think it's around $50-$60. I have a spot secured for her for when she's 3, but we've been on a wait list since I was pregnant. I can't really offer any advice on locating a quality preschool at an affordable price. My only suggestion would be to contact daycares in your area and see if they have any recommendations. Childcare workers generally know of other childcare facilities. Contact church auxiliaries to see if there is a preschool run in their church hall. M! ost times, even if it's a different religion or you are not religious yo! urself at all, the preschool will not be affiliated with the church, they just use a space....Show more
Judie Kise: Tell your daughter to tell the girl your advice! You've live now it time to let them deal with their trials. Unless their at risk do not interfere.
Tamatha Neubaum: I have threatened military school. She knows I don't have the money.She doesn't mind if I hit her. I have once. She said, "Really? That's it?"
Troy Staton: too young? I had this in school when I was 13
Frank Gazaway: OMG wake up lady You and your daughter should have had the talk about the birds and the bees at least 3 years ago.Now she's 16 and you just decided to have that conversation with her?Sorry but I think she's going to laugh at you and may ask if you are kidding.Then again, it's never too late.Lol you young parents of today. (rolls eyes)Good luck with that ;o)
Alexis Reyer: have the talk today. she cud already be sexually active by now.my sis lost hers at 13
Barrett Felicia: I was the exact same way (except I got good grades and didnt use that much bad language).Foul language, Ask her to not while she is in public, and try limiting herself (when she gets hurt, etc) at home.She probably calls you by your first name cause she - doesnt feel respected, is mature for her age, or just wants to annoy you. Maybe she is uncomfortable calling you by 'Mom' or 'Dad'.If she doesnt believe in god, you should respect that. Have a discussion with her about religion and maybe she can explain what she does believe. If she just hates church, maybe you should let her stay home, I believe in god, but I was so uncomfortable being in church around people I didnt know. Ask her to call you when she wont be home, or call and check in so that you know she's safe, and give her a cerfew. When kids are like that, sometimes it just helps to work out a game plan.Grades, help her with her homework, or make sure she finshed it. Always be quick to lend a h! and.And about the talking back, thats just something all teens do, sorr! y.P.S.// Military School is a deff. NO! If my mom ever did that to me, I would never talk to her again. That will just make her respect you less. She's your daughter, sending her away will just make her feel unwantedHope I helped :)...Show more
Branden Round: Hannah goes to an accrediated preschool run through a local university. She will be 4 on Sunday and she goes M, W, F from 9-12. We pay roughly $3000 a school year.Her tuition is on the middle/higher end of the spectrum. One local preschool is almost 10 grand a year!!
